A week ago I was listening to one of Nancy Campbell’s daughters speak about being a good mother. www.aboverubies.org At one point in the message, she shared an incident where she asked God to tell her what He thought of her mothering abilities. God spoke to her loud and clear at Walmart. 🙂 *Now don’t you want to go order that CD series?
I’ve had a few incidents lately where I’ve stood in awe of how God filled in the gaps of my mothering…
Son#4 came home from a trip today and was telling me about the activities, sermons, music, etc. A few things slipped out that caught my attention and caused me to question him further….
at one point, the youth were asked to go pray for their youth pastors…and, out of the entire group, Son#4 was the first to step forward. The announcement was then made that they should also pray for the assistants/helpers in each local youth group. Son#4 was the only one of our group to do so. He was surprised and a bit sad that none of the other kids acknowledged the full team.
But I was surprised by something else! How did you know to do that? What makes you different from the other kids? I don’t recall ever teaching you to notice!
When I arrived at the church to pick him up, the other kids were outside talking and laughing, Son#4 was nowhere to be found! After searching a while, I found him out on the bus, sweeping and helping The Delightful Ms. M (our lady bus driver).
I asked him about that later on — was it his job, had she asked for help? No, he just knew the bus was trashed and he didn’t want her to do all the cleaning by herself.
HOW DID HE KNOW TO DO THIS?
Once we got home and had plenty of time to talk, I asked him about that sort of thing — at length! He said that working on the farm and cleaning offices had made him realize how it takes a lot of work to earn just a little bit of money. Also, after teaching a children’s class for 3 years (one of our family projects), he saw how the helpers did all the grunt work and usually were not noticed — and he did not want the Delightful Ms. M to feel like she was not appreciated. He went on to tell me that she had stopped him before he got off the bus and thanked him for praying for her.
Pass the Kleenex.
Who is this boy? Where did he come from?
All I can say is this: I have never been a perfect mom. In fact, I have blown it so badly so often that my kids can share stories of my catastrophies in parenting for HOURS on end. But you know what? God is so incredibly MERCIFUL! He stands in the gap, He fills the needs, He provides opportunities that I overlook.
My hope is that every young mom who feels insecure and unworthy will catch a glimpse of how amazing, loving, kind, merciful and helpful God truly is. The simple prayer of asking Him to help you teach and train your kids is sufficient — He does and He will continue to do so — and the fruit of His teaching will always be a delightful surprise!
Stop fretting…..Trust Him to fill in the missing pieces.